Communication vignettes: ‘You must get her out of bed, nurse!’

Helen Scott

  • Abstract

    The advanced stages of disease can be associated with a great deal of distress for patients and their loved ones (Lobb et al, 2006; Murray et al, 2010; Candy et al, 2011). For example, families/friends of terminally ill people can become confused, fearful, experience despair and helplessness (Maher and Hemming, 2005) and feel very isolated (Thomas et al, 2002). When people are in situations over which they have no control, e.g. when a loved one is dying, they can display avoidance behaviour and deny that their loved one is seriously ill (Folkman, 1997; Folkman and Greer, 2000). They may also start to anticipate life without their loved one, which causes them to experience intense grief reactions before the person has died, i.e. anticipatory mourning (Rando, 2000). Risk factors for severe emotional distress among family/friends include being a spouse of the terminally ill person, the patient being of a young age, overhearing conversations between healthcare staff outside the room while the patient is dying and after death and poor health status of the family member (Shinjo et al, 2010).

  • Contributors

    Helen Scott


    Correct at article publish date

    Helen Scott is Editor, End of Life Journal, and Vicky Robinson is Consultant Nurse in Palliative and End of Life Care, Guy’s and St Thomas’ NHS Foundation Trust. Email:

    Original publishing information

    • Publisher: St Christopher's Hospice
    • Publish date: 01/01/2011
    • Volume: 1
    • Issue: 3

    Permissions: © 2015, Published by the BMJ Publishing Group Limited. For permission to use (where not already granted under a licence) please go to

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